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Transformation Guidances To Bring Us Peace
We all experience uncomfortable feelings, negative emotions, stuckness - generally what we might refer to as ‘feeling shit’. To be human is to be given the opportunity to transform these experiences into positive one’s. Ultimately I advocate for all of us to lean into the notion that we can be happy and peaceful. Not necessarily all the time, but I hold the view firmly that we have the ability to consciously transform our mindset such that we can progressively feel more satisfied in our life’s experience.
This is the first part of my regular blog on how to go about doing just that. It starts with recognising where we’re not happy. This is a process, like everything. It takes time. Time to contemplate, reason, and work things out. As a Holistic Psychotherapist that’s what I help people do. When we can ‘work things out’, it’s the same as saying we’ve made sense of our experience. With these realisations comes an accentuated level of peace.
But there’s many paths to experiencing fulfilment. Concentrating on where things aren’t feeling right is necessary, but placing too much emphasis on what’s not making us happy, may result in realisations, but often it can lead to the mind ruminating like the rambling mad person that won’t stop talking - making no sense - and quite likely causing anxiety. We don’t want that!
Another approach is to focus on what we do like about our life experiences. They might be from a long time ago, but still bring a warmth to our heart and a smile to our faces. They might feel like someone else’s experiences, and perhaps they are actually the kind of experiences that we associate with someone else (someone with a ‘better life than us’) - regardless if you can sense and feel into an experience that’s an improvement from the status quo, I encourage you to roll with it. We get to choose!.
Even more so we want to practice placing our present awareness on focusing on the aspects of our nature that we can relate to ourselves and others as positive. All of us have had feelings at one point or another that we can classify this way. The practice is to sit in the energy of these feelings. 5 minutes a day is a good start.
And last but not least, if you are really intent on upping the ante in the transformation game, I encourage you to actively give the expression of these positive feelings to others. The positivity you can share with others not only gives them a better life experience, but it works for us too.
Transformation takes effort. The pay off is happiness and peace. For all of us.