The Thinking and The Doing
‘The Comfy Corner’
My Day to Day
‘What are you up to?' is a question I’m responding to a lot lately. And asking too. I’m curious, and want to know what your experience is like. That speaks to what I’m doing too. I’m asking the questions, with clients, and with friends, with strangers, and loved one’s. ‘So what’s going on?’. Like…what’s really going on. And the response from me to you, and sometimes from you to me, is ‘yeah just cruising’ or ‘yeah not much’ etc. It’s a time dependent thing too. There’s a big difference between the greeting in the aisle of Aldi to hanging out with me in The Comfy Corner.
So this is my Comfy Corner response for the here and the now. I’m consciously prioritising a valued sense of spaciousness in my life. It facilitates; flow, passion, contentedness, peace, and love for me. And within this space I’m prioritising, I’m often exercising other highly valued priorities of; contemplation, being creative, connecting (with myself, others, and nature) and giving to others. How my day to days pan out, has become a manifestation of these and other priorities according to where they sit for me. They’re always changing. So in other words after my non negotiable practices first thing, I am open and aware or what comes, feeling into if its for me or not and flowing accordingly.
The non negotiable practices first thing for me are yoga and meditation. The foundation they set, is aligning my body mind and spirit with my highest priorities - vibrationally. Refer back to last paragraph :-).
Back to The Comfy Corner…..or The Fire Track Dune……or This Computer Screen….With You
When I’m wearing my Psychotherapist, Holistic Counsellor hat, and looking in the mirror and laughing at what a wanker I am to even consider wearing beret’s, my experience and therefore our experience is always different, but with also a consistent thread of certain things.
Like my invitation to feel safe, and welcome, and open, and vulnerable, and honest alongside me. That intentionality is always there. You too will get to know that I don’t align to rules and regulations. I consciously choose to break down the cultural constructs and institutionalised regimes. And specifically you’ll come to know that in any time spent with me, openly, vulnerably, authentically - that again, it is shared. I am completely open to relaying my personal experience to you in the clearest form of communication I can. Because we’ve come together to collaborate, to expand, to grow together. These yearnings and energies to move forward have to be mirrored. And likewise, the unfolding of our less conscious ways. One can’t experience an aspect of these things without the other.
These collaborations are about how to find peace or equanimity. From where we can expand into the omnipotent experience of love and joy. These collaborations are more specifically about how to relieve ourselves from the burden of dissatisfactions. How deep these are determines the labels we give them. Some are irritations, others are the experience of profound pain. The Tibetan Buddhists call them sufferings. Whatever you call them, they suck - we don’t want to feel them, and if you’re hanging out with me in The Comfy Corner, literally or figuratively, it’s because you’ve found the courage to go into places that aren’t comfortable, alongside me, held by me, so that we can learn to find comfort and become free from fear.
‘It’s all mind’, in my mind. And it’s all body…in my mind. And its all expression of our souls quest for spirit….in my mind. However you want to build the language around ‘your journey’, it doesn’t matter as long as we’re actively becoming more conscious. Whether it’s your body, mind or spirit, that you’re aligning, or your arresting quest for understanding the delicate touch of butterfly feelers, it’s all about becoming more aware, more conscious. Another cultural favourite for now is to become ‘woke’.
Because we’re all half asleep, and have next to no idea as we navigate mostly unconsciously, this semi lucid woken dream state. That’s why we need to wake up. Unlike the butterfly, we’re more akin to moths as one of my teachers, Lama Choedak laughs out loud about, as he paints the picture of us all flying towards the light before we realise the light is the flame that extinguish us once again from this unconscious lifetimes of suffering.
So instead of burning our wings off once again and falling to our graves wondering what happened, I consciously create intentions for you and for me, for all of us, to do the work. To courageously get off the treadmill and look around the corner of our minds’ set ways of being. Ask of ourselves, why are we this way and not that. And most importantly, how can we learn from that and become more.
That’s what I’m doing.
Eating Cake
I’m also drinking a significant amounts of tea with soy milk and honey. I’m currently obsessing slightly over forging deep connection with myself and others. I’m exploring my hedonistic urges and grasping, alongside a conscious drive to delve into loneliness and wholeness. I’m running around a warehouse floor a couple of times a week with a bunch of other human animals, sweating and grunting and giving my mind over to my body’s will to purify. I’m actively surfing my brains out whilst nurturing a squeezed nerve in my hip that is crying out for respite. I’m constantly experimenting with my personal human drive for becoming more through the entrenched practices of self destruction. I’m keeping the fire going though on the most part. And not feeling too guilty if I whack on the heater for a while instead. I’m walking barefoot in nature, and in wonder. And also stomping around in my uggies. I’m going to eat all of the cheesecake my beautiful Leify made me for my birthday, and feel a little bit sick as a results. And I’m going to continue to practice it all with my number one intention of working towards love and peace for me and for you!